As you cultivate a strong sense of self, it becomes easier to discern who belongs in your life and who doesn’t. You begin to evaluate relationships through a clearer lens, asking yourself: What do I value in myself? What do I value in others? What do I bring to the table, and what do they bring in return?
When I was younger, I believed friendships were meant to last forever. But as I grew, I realized that relationships evolve, and not all of them are meant to withstand the test of time. Friendships often serve a purpose for a particular season in life, offering lessons, growth, or support when we need it most. However, when a friendship no longer aligns with your highest good—when you’ve poured love, effort, and energy into it but feel little to nothing in return—it’s a sign that something needs to change.
Letting Go Isn’t Easy, But It’s Necessary
Releasing a friendship, even when you know it’s unhealthy, is never easy. There is grief in letting go, in acknowledging that a connection you once cherished has run its course. It’s natural to feel sadness, to miss the presence of someone who once held a meaningful place in your life. But mourning the loss of a friendship does not mean you made the wrong decision—it means you valued it.
The stronger your sense of self, the easier it becomes to detach from relationships that no longer serve you. You begin to recognize that friendships should not feel like a burden or an obligation. True friendships thrive on mutual compassion, kindness, and respect. They flow, rather than force.
Space Creates Clarity
Sometimes, taking a step back is necessary to gain perspective. Distance allows you to see a friendship for what it truly was—whether it was nourishing or depleting, meaningful or one-sided. And sometimes, space can even offer a second chance, allowing both individuals to grow and reconnect from a healthier place.
But forcing something that is no longer in alignment with who you are or where you’re headed only creates resistance. Holding on too tightly to relationships that no longer fit limits your own growth and keeps you from making space for the friendships that are meant for you.
Trust That Something Better Is Coming
You will be okay. You will heal. And in time, you’ll understand why certain friendships had to end. Every time you let go of something misaligned, you open the door for something better—relationships that reflect your worth, respect your boundaries, and celebrate your growth.
So, keep focusing on yourself. Keep becoming the best version of who you are meant to be. The right people—those who see and appreciate your light—will find their way to you.
Believe it, and it will happen.