Rebelling Against Yourself

Have you ever felt this deep burning desire to accomplish certain goals yet struggle to do them? And the more you try to mentally convince yourself to do it, knowing that it is beneficial for you, regardless of whether it is work-related or personal, the more you rebel? What is this self-sabotage? If you despise authority or other people controlling you (perhaps due to feeling controlled and lacking personal autonomy and freedom when you were younger), you will undoubtedly dislike it as an adult. Accomplishments then become problematic when this self-sabotage takes precedence in your life. You end up not accomplishing the tasks that are either required or that you genuinely enjoy because you are telling yourself that this must be done. Unconsciously, you feel triggered as these childhood wounds have not been resolved.

How can we rectify this self-sabotage?

The application of knowing what to do is a lot harder than possessing the knowledge.

First, take a deep look inside yourself. Discover the patterns from childhood that led to the path of adult self-rebellion. Through compassion, accept and forgive those with whom you have felt controlled as a child. Inner, childhood healing is a process so take your time.

Second, recognize when you are rebelling against yourself. It is only through mindfulness and presence that are we able to acknowledge and accept when there is self-sabotage.

Third, set systems not goals. A goal is essentially the final destination of an accomplishment, such as writing a novel. However, the process of achieving the goal can become overwhelming, leading to self-sabotage via procrastination if systems are not in place. A system is a process, a journey, and daily habits to achieve the goal. It is easy to see the progress made using systems every day.