Once you have established a strong sense of self, it becomes easier to recognize who you want and do not want in your life. What do you value in yourself and what do you value in other people – what do you bring to the table and what do they bring to the table in return? I used to think that friendships lasted forever when I was younger but the older I got, the harder it seemed to maintain or create them. They serve their purpose for a moment in your life. If you feel that a friendship is no longer serving your higher good, and you know in your heart that you have tried to be a good friend but feel as though it is not reciprocated, then that is a sure sign that the friendship is not real and something needs to change.
Letting go of friendships is never easy either, even if you know they were not healthy for you. Grieving is a natural part of the process when the decision to let go is made, so it’s natural to feel sad and miss the other person/people. The stronger your core and level of detachment from the exterior world is, the easier it becomes to let go of people who do not bring value into your life – who do not love, care, or respect you. Friendships should not feel like hard work. If there is compatibility, there is a sense of mutual compassion, kindness, and respect.
Sometimes space is what you need to realize what someone truly meant to you and vice versa. Never force something that is not in alignment with who you are or where you are trying to go. You only end up limiting or hurting yourself. Letting go will create space for something better since you will be in a position to recognize what it is that you do not want and what you will not tolerate from people anymore.
You will be okay, though. It will all work out and usually for the better. You’ll see. Keep focusing on yourself and being the best version of yourself that you can be. The right people, who see how amazing and beautiful you are, will come to you. Believe it and it will happen.
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